Without any support husband tolerates sexual and physical abuse from wife for 2.5 years

Mukesh was a very simple man working for an MNC and just like many other young aspiring men, had come to a city, thousands of miles away from his home and parents, in order to fulfil his dreams. Mukesh got married to Sheena, a Middletown girl staying close to his native place and working in the same city as him.

His ordeal of marrying Sheena started from the first night itself when Sheena created a fuss on Mukesh going to meet his mother who had fallen ill. Mukesh, finally gave in to her tantrums and could not see her ailing mother, but was forced to make love to Sheena.

Mukesh thought and hoped that if he cooperates with his wife on first night, she would also understand him and things would be alright. But he was mistaken. His submissive stand on first night went against him. His wife mistook his silence as his weakness rather than his love for her. While Mukesh, hoped things would be fine one day, his ordeal kept on increasing day by day.

From extreme mood swings, to violent bouts of anger, to suicide threats and many other tantrums, Mukesh had it all in his marriage and every time he tried to approach his wife, hoping to tell her that her behavior and abuse towards him is hurting him very much; his wife would change colors and become an extremely caring wife. This would confuse Mukesh and just as he would hope things to get better, they would turn worse.

Slowly, Mukesh started losing concentration on his job and was extremely wary of stepping home, not knowing what would welcome him home – brickbats or short-lived love.

Slowly, his wife started accusing him of sexual impotency and blamed him for not satisfying her ‘enough’. She insisted on having sex at least 7 times a day and threatened to go to other men if he didn’t do it enough.

Even his in-laws supported Sheena only and forced him to go impotency tests just to satiate Sheena’s inflated ego and immature adamancy. Mukesh was in deep emotional pain and was not able to connect with his wife romantically and as a result he stopped enjoying the sexual encounters which further infuriated his wife, who once threatened him to jump off the balcony of his flat situated at the thirteenth floor. Somehow Mukesh satisfied her prevented the suicide.

One day Sheena promised her that she would improve her behavior. Sensing some change Mukesh took her for a long drive and there she started demanding that they should have their own house. Mukesh cited financial constraints for the same as he was still repaying his education loan and the personal loan he had taken for marriage. Hearing this, Sheena got extremely angry and opened the door of the car which was running at almost 70 KMPH, and threatened to jump off the car if Mukesh did not agree to buy a house soon. Mukesh stopped the car, pacified Sheena, told her that he will think about it and then only she got back into the car and allowed him to drive.

Mukesh thought that his troubles were over but it was only like chasing a mirage in the desert as one day his wife got angry on him for talking to his mother for long on phone and attacked him physically, scratched him with nails, all over the body and also made attacks with a knife. A bleeding Mukesh immediately called up his in-laws and complained to them about their daughter’s violent behavior, to which they coldly replied that she will be fine once her anger subsides.

This was an eye opener for Mukesh and he started looking for some help online when he stumbled upon a community center for men and approached them for help. After giving Mukesh, a patient listening, the community center enabled Mukesh to speak up against the abuse and move away from the abusive atmosphere.

Mukesh got some confidence and talked to his parents about his ordeal he was going through for the last 2.5 years. However, Mukesh was shattered when his own parents asked him to adjust with his wife and keep her happy because if he takes some stand against her, his marriage might break and this would be devastating for their family.

Mukesh lost all hopes and doesn’t know what to do now after his own parents refused to support him. There are many such men like Mukesh who are tolerating wife’s torture silently and there is no protection available for them. As per records by National Crime Records Bureau, every year 65000 married men are committing suicides.